The guilt is heavy today. My 15 month old is neglected. Well, at least he is compared to how my first born was treated at this age. James is in the process of sprouting yet more teeth and I bet it hurts… Unfortunately, he really wants to be rocked and held ALL day. This is almost impossible because of my 4 year old. When Jake was this age I could drop everything and hold him for as long as he wanted. Also, Jake was the only one so he was the center of our universe and received all of our attention. Now, poor James has to share the spot light.
Maybe it’s good that I can’t jump to his every need… Who knows, he may not be as needy as my first born. Jake ripped a hang nail the other day and you would have thought he cut his finger off! Hmmm… maybe he over reacted because I did coddle him a bit much as a baby.
P.S. The other day Jake actually took a nap and I was able to rock my sweet baby James just because he needed it. A guess a little coddling is ok 
The more kids you have, the greater the guilt becomes. Although God made us with a heart for many, we still only have two arms which do carry limitations at times.
I 100% agree and have the same feeling time to time as well. Leah is very mommy clingy and it makes me feel like she is starved for my attention
That gets better the older they get but it never completely goes away. By 4 Kendall knew her letters by site, knew their sounds, her colors, we could have an adult conversation with her. Alyssa at 4 isn’t even close to being where Kendall was. Then again Alyssa can get her own juice, get her bath ready, get herself dressed – all things Kendall relied on us to do for a very long time. I’m very excited to see what the third will be like. Already I see the 2 older girls completely spoiling the younger one.
Jake knows all of those same things too. And at 17 months (James’ age now) he isn’t saying anything but dada. It’s funny how different your own kids can be! And I can already see how James will be more independent and want to dress himself